69 | Mom Month Part 2 (Stephanie Gutierrez & Renee Burt)

Happy Mother's Day! This conversation is part 2 of our Mom Month and we had the privilege of a double awesome conversation with Renee Burt and Stephanie Gutierrez. We explore the power of a hug, speaking words of life, modeling our Heavenly Father's love and praying for miracles while living with love and thankfulness.

Episode 69 Conversation Notes:

• Living with expectancy and joy (1:52)
• Romans 8:15 "This resurrection life you received from God is not a timid, grave-tending life. It’s adventurously expectant, greeting God with a childlike “What’s next, Papa?” (2:32)
• My dad not only loved me, but he liked me (4:43)
• When you know your parents like you, it changes everything... My dad came home from work excited to play with us (5:05)
• If Jesus would want to be your kids best friend, then why would I as their mother not want to be their best friend (5:50)
• Love and like your kids (7:22)
• A dad who prioritized teaching his kids the Bible and not in an oppressive way, but in a life-giving way (7:50)
• My dad looked at me with such love that it helped give me an understanding of God's love (8:35)
• He loves to play with his daughters and get into their world, but he also loves to invite his daughters into his world (9:10)
• Our kids feel so safe in their dads love (9:45)
• My daughter says that she's not going to settle for a guy to marry unless he's at least as good as her dad (9:45)
• Speaking positive words over your wife (10:45)
• You have a huge impact on your wife's parenting. Even if you don't see it, keep affirming (11:25)
• Seeing a dad who cries over the work of God in his daughters life... The Generation curse was broken (11:50)
• Every morning they would wake up believing for a miracle... Every day their first look at their daughter was disappointment (13:30)
• Reading in Romans revealed more of the love of God. The lack of healing in their daughter was not their fault as her parents (14:25)
• "I didn't have to wait to fully accept her and fully love her until she walked in healing. God loved her right now and right then." (15:00)
• The shock of learning that her kids were moving away to the mission field in Peru (16:30)
• God whispered in a soft voice, "I have not forgotten you" (17:25)
• Sharing her testimony... the raw and vulnerable version (18:10)
• God’s lessons are bigger than ours. He never forgets us (1835)
• Tell your story and you will impact their story (1820)
• What is better than that? Seeing God take the pain in your life and turn it around to help someone else (2005)
• Tell your daughters how beautiful and valuable they are (2034)
• Every little girl wants to hear that they are beautiful and if they do not hear it from their dad, they will go to others to find it (21:10)
• Tell your daughter every single way that they are awesome and tell them all the time (21:30)
• Learn about the love languages of your kids (21:35)
• Look for ways that you can speak love in ways that are meaningful to your daughter (21:10)
• The importance of the hug and the embrace of a dad (20:25)
• The desire for a hug and embrace. We want it from our dads and we wanted from our heavenly father (23:00)
• You might be speaking love loud and clear, but if it is not the type of love your wife wants, it can be grating for her (23:50)
• An ideal Mother’s Day for Stephanie is not needing to do anything. Acts of service is her love language (24:18)
• Renee explained that receiving flowers brought back pain from when she was a daughter. Her dad would bring flowers anytime he had an affair. Flowers meant an apology because of her family history (25:10)
• It really comes down to communication... If you are in doubt, ask your wife. Don't guess (26:10)
• The wife really needs to tell the husband what she wants. Help a guy out. Make a list of things you would like and give that list to your husband (26:45)
• Major on the major and minors on the minors. Don’t spend too much energy on things that are not a big deal (28:10)
• Focus on the character and the qualities of your kids heart (28:35)
• Limited attention span‘s and being intentional with cell phone usage. When you are with your kids, really be with them (29:45)
• Work life bleeding over into home life (30:15)
• The ability to focus and really listen to your kids when your phone is buzzing is very difficult (30:25)
• Set the phone down and really listen to your kids (29:45)
• The temptation to let your eyes glaze over and stop really listening to your kids... don’t let your mind drift off and go someplace else in your head (31:05)
• If your kid talks a lot, listen and look for the treasure buried in the long winded conversation (33:10)
• The importance of finding common ground with your kids. Find a way to connect (35:00)
• Help each child know individually that they are special (36:05)
• Find things with each child that are “just us” moments... Special Time (36:40)
• Take 10 to 15 minutes every day for individual one on one time with each child (37:00)

Love Languages

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