The Long Distance Love Bombs Podcast 220: Tully O'Connor - Can we thrive in the glorious burden of fatherhood?
Tully O'Connor is a coach who supports people in cultivating confident leadership and thriving family units and relationships. He is where healing work meets high-performance living, guiding people into a life filled with more freedom, fulfillment, and connection.
In this conversation, we discuss the challenges and obstacles that men face when becoming fathers, including the struggle to connect with the baby and the shift in intimacy within the relationship.
Tully emphasizes the importance of embracing the burden of fatherhood and finding ways to thrive amidst the challenges by suggesting we redefine freedom and find moments of joy and presence in everyday life. Communication and compassion between partners are also highlighted as essential for navigating the changes and resentments that may arise.
We also discuss the need for mutual appreciation to create a buffer for frustration and the importance of building a support network outside of the relationship and prioritizing self-care. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication, flexibility, and self-care in navigating the challenges of parenthood.
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Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
06:37 Exploring Fatherhood and Thriving
10:24 From Burden to Thriving in Fatherhood
15:05 Redefining Freedom in Fatherhood
18:03 The Power of Playfulness and Presence
24:09 Common Issues in Fatherhood
36:24 The Power of Appreciation and Acknowledgement
44:09 Navigating Intimacy and Connection
47:01 Managing Capacity and Negotiating Responsibilities
52:39 Preserving Individual Hobbies and Interests
59:32 The Importance of Mutual Support and Community
Keywords: fatherhood, challenges, obstacles, connection, intimacy, burden, thriving, freedom, presence, communication, compassion, relationship, emotions, appreciation, validation, resentment, frustration, support network, self-care, hobbies, communication, flexibility, parenthood
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