How To Mourn With Those That Mourn with Lisa Valentine Clark

Getting comfortable being a support to others in their times of grief and pain isn’t always natural. Mourning with those that mourn and comforting those who need comfort means simply showing up, asking how they are doing, providing a listening ear, and even sometimes sitting with them in their silence. In this episode, we discuss how we can show up for others—both near and far—and comfort one another as we rely on God’s miracles.

 

“The way we show up in the world is a gift to other people.”

 

Lisa is a freelance writer, producer, actress, and host of BYU Radio’s The Lisa Show. She wrote the book, Real Moms, Making It Up As We Go, co-hosted the feel-good service show “Random Acts,” and headlined the musical improv tv series Show Offs, for three seasons on BYUtv. Lisa and her late husband Christopher have 5 kids and a Labradoodle named Gus. You can find her on Instagram @yourfunnyvalentine

 

Top Takeaways from this episode!

• As women of God, we need to expect miracles and know that we are seen as individuals to Him; He will come to us in our specific needs.
• We can show up for people, even when we’re not physically there. When we know our loved ones better, we can be specific about our service to them. (Like dropping off cheese and Diet Coke for Lisa!)
• Sometimes we just need to sit in silence when we mourn with others instead of trying to problem solve.
• The Lord can make beautiful things out of the horrible and ugly and unfair things in life when we rely on his promises
• God will always bless us more than we deserve.

Something to think about: How can you be more compassionate to yourself when you are going through a painful or grieving time?

 

Small and simple weekly challenge: Think of that person who is going through a really hard time right now and reach out to them. Put the phone away, give them your undivided attention, and ask them, “how are you feeling today—but really? I want to understand.”

 

Links:

https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/lisa-valentine-clark/yes-and-the-creative-art-of-living/

https://www.ldsliving.com/act-ii-scene-i-lisa-valentine-clark-on-grief-laughter-and-love/s/94511

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