In today’s episode, we explore how fear underlies the power dynamics that develop in our relationships with others and within ourselves. When fear is present, we naturally desire to control outcomes by taking on a bully, victim or savior role that externalizes our fear and separates us from our truth. Tune in to join us as we discuss the difference between power and empowerment. We will explore how welcoming the emotions and resistance around undesired outcomes can allow us to exit the power dynamics and show up authentically, leading to deeper connection and more harmonious relationships.

“We all get scared sometimes and so we all also get into power dynamics sometimes. It’s just the way it is. It doesn’t matter how old you are and it doesn’t matter how much you’ve meditated. If there wasn’t some of this tension, we wouldn’t be alive.”

What we discuss in Episode 42:

03:31 How fear creates power dynamics.

06:15 Fight, flight or freeze — the three ways that fear presents itself and the three roles of the Fear Triangle dynamic.

13:03 The different voices in our head and how they influence our behavior towards ourselves and others.

17:15 The difference between power and empower and the ways that it affects how we show up in relationships.

22:22 Choosing your authenticity as a way of dissolving the fear dynamic.

25:10 Brett’s relationship to fear/power and authenticity as it relates to his history in air sports.

28:00 The shame behind the roles in the fear triangle and how it can hold the cycle in place.

**Full transcript can be found here: https://tinyurl.com/AoAEpisode42

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