What to Do When People Put You Down

It's never easy when others criticize, belittle, or misunderstand us. Yet, as followers of Christ, we are reminded that our worth isn't determined by the opinions of others, but by God's love and purpose for us. In times when people put us down, we can take comfort in knowing that Jesus, too, was despised and rejected, yet He overcame it all. Through Him, we find our true identity, our strength, and our value. Remember, God's truth about you is far greater than any negative words spoken by others.

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When People Put You Down

By Kelly Balarie

““Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” – Galatians 1:10 NIV

Every time I spoke, the woman would in one way or another slight me, saying things like:

“I told you this already…”

“You should know that…”

“No, that’s not what you should do; you should ____.”

The frown on her face said it all. Not knowing how to fully connect with her, I decided to engage in small talk. Maybe that would lighten her up. 

“It’s such a cool morning.” I pronounced.

She snapped back, “I’m not focused on that at all; I am focused on getting to my destination on time.”

Okay, I thought, I’d better just keep my mouth shut.  So, I did.

All the same, while we quietly walked together, I wondered, is it me? Am I the problem? Does she not like me?

Possibly. Not everyone will like me. She very well may not like my talkative personality. Or, my loud laugh. Or, my chipper attitude as it pertains to life. Yet, I am not responsible to make her like me, I am responsible to serve Jesus. 

““Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” (Galatians 1:10 NIV)

If I let what she thinks about me, define me, suddenly I serve the purpose of convincing her that I am likeable, wonderful, and worthy. In a sense, serving her only serves me and my ego. Getting my value from man can easily get me off-track with the Lord.

I cannot afford to serve man more than my Master.

Upon coming to this realization, I see this woman’s issue with me is her issue; it does not belong to me. My concern is to walk in love and not judgement, forgiveness and not bitterness. I haven’t walked a day in her shoes. What do I know about all her problems? What do I know about how to fix her? What can I do to ever please her?With all this settled in my heart, I realize that I must exert one of the most incredible superpowers I have in Christ Jesus, forgiveness. I choose to forgive her time and time again. She gives me a face – forgive. She responds irritably – forgive. She tells me that I should have known something – forgive. She responds with a contrarian opinion – forgive.

I am not powerless; I am powerful when I, by the grace of God, forgive much like Jesus forgave me. Forgiveness is a superpower for those willing to get over themselves in order to love like Jesus. I can’t say I always do it right, either. Sometimes, I lash out or criticize people in my mind. After, I feel upset with myself about how I acted. Have you ever noticed the hardest one to forgive – can often be ourselves? 

Forgiveness is not solely given; it is often received. After we tell Jesus we are sorry, we can receive His love and grace and let go of all we hold against ourselves. For instance, I had to ask Jesus to forgive me for judging this woman. But, after that, by His grace, I received the free gift of a slate wiped-clean. 

I am wholly loved and clean in Jesus’ eyes thanks to what He did on the cross. So are you, too, when you come to Jesus this way.

Intersecting Faith & Life:

Who is annoying you? What would it look like for you to walk in constant forgiveness? How might you be holding anger towards yourself? Take a second to write down on a piece of paper everyone you are angry at, annoyed with or accusing in your mind. After writing that list, take a second to forgive each person. Perhaps, after completing that list, ask God to forgive you for whatever you have done, such as judging or gossiping.  Then, receive His grace and forgiveness that makes you white as snow.

Kelly uplifts believers with boosts of faith; find encouragement by getting Kelly’s blog posts by email. Kelly, creator of the “Hear God’s Voice” podcast, is also a blogger, national speaker, and author of Take Every Thought Captive, Rest Now, Battle Ready, and Fear Fighting. Kelly, a real cheerleader of faith, loves seeing the power of prayer in live action. She loves seeing the look on people’s faces when they realize –God is faithful! Kelly’s work has been featured on The Today Show, CBN’s 700 Club, Relevant and Today’s Christian Woman. 

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