Voxology Forgiveness, Freedom, and the Myth of “Forgive and Forget”
How forgiveness transforms, heals, and awakens us to the radical grace of Jesus—even when reconciliation seems impossible. In this milestone 50th episode, Mike and Andy reflect on the podcast’s evolution, exciting upcoming changes, and dive into one of the most nuanced and powerful teachings of Jesus: forgiveness.
Whether you’ve been wounded by the church, suffered spiritual trauma, or wrestled with resentment, this conversation offers a deeply honest look at what forgiveness is—and what it isn’t. Through personal stories, unpacked theology, and quotes from RT Kendall’s “Total Forgiveness,” Mike and Andy examine why forgiveness isn't about glossing over pain or forgetting offenses, but about yielding our right to vengeance and finding healing through honest confrontation and grace.
Key Takeaways: • Forgiveness is personal, not institutional – You can’t forgive "the church" as a vague entity; real forgiveness requires naming the individuals who caused harm. • Dispelling the “forgive and forget” myth – True forgiveness does not require forgetting; it requires remembering rightly and responding with grace and boundaries. • Forgiveness ≠ Reconciliation – Forgiveness can happen without reconciliation, especially when the other party is unsafe, unavailable, or unwilling to participate. • The spiritual roots of bitterness – Holding on to resentment impacts not just our relationships but our connection to God and self. • Practical pathways to forgiveness – From praying for God’s blessing over the one who hurt you to small internal shifts like saying their name without anger, forgiveness is often a quiet, powerful process. • Forgiving God and Self – Wrestling with our own anger toward God or ourselves is part of learning to trust and release, even when answers never come.
Guest Highlights: None this episode—but keep an ear out for Episode 51, featuring Joey Svensson from Bad Christian and The Pastor With No Answers podcasts.
Resources Mentioned: • RT Kendall – “Total Forgiveness” • Matthew 18 – Jesus' parable of the unmerciful servant • The Lord’s Prayer – Matthew 6:12 • Subversive Kingdom Archive – formerly subversivekingdom.com (now forwarding to the new Vox website!)
This episode also includes some big announcements: • The podcast is officially transitioning away from SubversiveKingdom.com to VoxPodcast.com. • You can now listen via SoundCloud and subscribe directly through RSS. • Support options and recurring contributions are coming soon—stay tuned!
Join the global Vox family in embodying Jesus’ subversive grace. If this conversation sparked something in you—or you have your own story of forgiveness—reach out. We’d love to hear from you.
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Grace and peace to you—see you soon for Season 2!
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