Topics discussed include fear of abandonment in relationships, overconcentration on a romantic relationship, childhood trauma's impact on relationships, traumatic experience with language barrier, fear of vulnerability in intimate relationships, and the impact of suppressed emotions.
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Fear of abandonment can lead to an excessive focus on one relationship at the expense of others and self-care.
Negative self-image can stem from childhood experiences and impact the ability to express emotions openly in intimate relationships.
Deep dives
Fear of falling in love too quickly
The guest discusses her tendency to fear falling in love too quickly and panicking when relationships progress rapidly. She questions whether this is normal and wonders if it's a problem that needs to be managed rather than solved.
Feeling not good enough
The guest expresses her fear of not being good enough in romantic relationships, doubting their feelings for her and panicking when they show any signs of pulling back. She believes this fear stems from her childhood experiences and struggles to find a balance between being herself and meeting her own desires in relationships.
Negative self-image
The guest reveals her self-image of being a burden to others, which she believes originates from her childhood experiences. She shares her struggle with suppressing emotions like anger and sadness, and the panic she experiences when relationships seem to drift away. This negative self-image affects her ability to express her feelings openly and leaves her feeling anxious and uncertain in intimate relationships.
Overcoming the fear and self-image
The guest explores ways to overcome her fear and negative self-image. The host suggests making fun of the self-image and openly acknowledging it in order to take away its power. The guest admits the difficulty in letting go of this panic and self-image but expresses her willingness to work on it and hopes for a more positive and confident future in intimate relationships.
Myrthe (25) often panics when new relationships or friendships become more serious. All of a sudden she feels afraid the other person might leave her. She then dedicates all her attention to that relationship, neglecting other relationships and her own self care. And of course this extreme focus often doesn't improve the relationship in question.
This is the final episode of Season 1 of the Flip Thinking Podcast. We will take a short break and return with Season 2 soon!
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