

Love in a F*cked Up World with Mariame Kaba
14 snips Oct 3, 2025
Mariame Kaba, an abolitionist organizer and educator, dives into critical discussions on leadership and community dynamics. She explores the dangers of pedestalizing leaders and emphasizes the importance of accountability rooted in real relationships. Kaba addresses the complexities of cancel culture, the influence of romance on resistance work, and redefines hope as a practice of action. With insights on non-monogamy and building genuine community ties, she advocates for collective experiments and finding meaning through shared efforts.
AI Snips
Chapters
Books
Transcript
Episode notes
Pedestals Make Movements Fragile
- Pedestalizing leaders dehumanizes them and raises expectations to impossible levels.
- That dynamic makes movements fragile because people delegate work they could do themselves to an idealized person.
Demand Accountability In Relationship
- Hold leaders accountable within real relationships rather than via strangers online.
- You cannot make someone accountable from afar; accountability requires existing relational ties.
The Conciergeification Of Relationships
- Social life has adopted a concierge, on-demand expectation that erodes tolerance for messiness.
- That consumerized expectation fuels outsourcing of care and low tolerance for imperfect people or groups.