How to Guide, Not Control, Your Thoughts (DQ Solo)

#140:

“Every man is what he is

because of the dominating thoughts

which he permits to occupy his mind.” -- Napoleon Hill

 

I love this quote from Napoleon Hill because it highlights 2 truths:

1. Your thoughts create your reality
2. You have the authority to choose which thoughts will dominate your mind

 

Here are 3 important things I needed to learn in order to effectively choose my thoughts:

 

#1. Your mind produces thoughts the way your heart produces beats*.

 

In other words, they come automatically.

 

According to some very well-respected neuroscientists (like Dr. Joe Dispenza), you produce between 50,000-70,000 thoughts a day.

 

You cannot stop your thoughts from coming.

 

You can only decide what to do with them once they’re there, such as:

• Which ones you give attention to
• Which ones you give further energy
• Which ones you subtract energy from

 

*Meditation teacher Emily Fletcher taught me this one.

 

#2. A belief is a thought you keep thinking*.

 

It’s as simple as this:

 

Think something long enough, and you’ll come to believe it.

 

*Abraham Hicks taught me this one.

 

#3. Guide, don’t control, your thoughts.

 

Being controlled by my thoughts made me miserable.

Trying to control my thoughts made me equally miserable.

After learning I produce 70,000 thoughts a day, I gave up my futile attempts to control.

Instead, I learned how to guide my thoughts:

 

The art of taking a thought and bringing it the most empowering place.

 

In today’s episode, I’ll teach you the art of how to guide, not control, your thoughts.

 

-DQ

 

PS – If you’re continuing your anti-racist inner work as I am, I’d like to recommend this YouTube video Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man.

 

PPS - If you’ve ever wondered “should I say black or African American,” your question will be answered in the first 80 seconds of that video.