Dr. Antonia, a clinical psychologist specializing in ADHD and relationships, discusses the correlations between Polyamory and ADHD. They explore how ADHD impacts attraction to polyamory, difficulties in managing relationships, and the importance of understanding these connections. The podcast delves into topics like time management, polysaturation, and the need for novelty in relationships, shedding light on the challenges and dynamics of polyamory for individuals with ADHD.
ADHD and polyamory intertwine through shared traits of novelty-seeking and impulsive behaviors, shaping relationship dynamics.
Challenges of time management and setting boundaries in polyamorous relationships are exacerbated by ADHD traits, impacting partner interactions.
The push-pull dynamics in relationships influenced by ADHD highlight the importance of managing contrasting behaviors for healthy, sustainable connections.
Deep dives
Understanding the Connection between ADHD and Polyamory
Polyamory and ADHD intertwine in ways that shape relationship dynamics. Dr. Antonia sheds light on the correlation between ADHD and polyamory, discussing how the need for novelty and stimulation in ADHD aligns with the quest for new relationship energy (NRE) in polyamory. The episode delves into how ADHD impacts time management, setting boundaries, and handling poly saturation, highlighting the struggles faced by individuals juggling multiple partners.
Navigating Time Management and Boundary Setting
Dr. Antonia reveals how time management challenges stemming from ADHD can lead to difficulties in respecting boundaries and meeting commitments. The narrative explores the complexities of time perception and how polyamorous individuals, like Jess Levy, confront issues of punctuality and meeting partner expectations.
Embracing Novelty and Handling Poly Saturation
The discussion delves into the allure of novelty in polyamorous relationships and the craving for new relationship energy. Dr. Antonia and Jess Levy reflect on the struggles of poly saturation, where the pursuit of diverse connections can overwhelm individuals, leading to a reevaluation of their relationship needs and capacity.
Exploring Push-Pull Dynamics in ADHD-Polyamory Intersections
The podcast scrutinizes the push-pull dynamics prevalent in relationships influenced by ADHD. Individuals with ADHD may exhibit impulsive behaviors, pushing for quick progression in relationships, while partners, often in self-preservation mode, may pump the brakes, navigating boundaries to maintain emotional balance. The episode emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and managing these contrasting dynamics for healthy, sustainable relationships.
Navigating Differences in Relationship Expectations
In the podcast episode, the speaker discusses how they realized they and their partner wanted different things in their relationship, leading to an amicable separation. The speaker then delves into their experience transitioning to a new polyamorous partnership, highlighting the challenges of long-distance relationships and the unexpected shift from casual dating to committed polyamory.
Understanding ADHD's Impact on Polyamorous Dynamics
The episode explores the interplay between ADHD and polyamory, revealing how ADHD traits like impulsivity and novelty-seeking behavior can influence relationship dynamics. The speaker reflects on personal struggles with maintaining interest in long-term relationships due to ADHD tendencies towards newness. Additionally, insights are shared on managing smartphone addiction and setting boundaries to ensure partners' consent and understanding in ADHD-informed relationships.
In this highly anticipated episode of "Remodeled", Jes chats with clinical psychologist Dr. Antonia Jurkovic about her perceived and experienced correlations between ADHD and Polyamory.
They dive into: how much Dr. Antonia thinks Polyamory and ADHD are related to one another, how the identities are inherently intertwined, and the growing observation that so many non-monogamous folks have ADHD.
They also talk about how ADHD might impact what draws someone to polyamory (a need for excitement, spontaneity, change, novelty...), and how it could possibly explain some of the difficulties people find themselves having within polyamory (like: time management, polysaturation, “Moving fast”/push-pull dynamic within relationships, NRE addiction, having a hard time saying no to something you really want, and texting partners/having a hard time getting off your phone).
Dr. Antonia also shares why is it helpful to have this knowledge. (So, spread this episode far and wide!)
This is going to be the first of a series about Neurodivergence and Polyamory, so please email any followup questions you may have for Dr. Antonia to RemodeledLove@gmail.com
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