Unruly (adjective): Disorderly and disruptive and not amenable to discipline or control.

The official dictionary definition of ‘unruly’ isn’t something women usually aspire to be.

All our lives, we’ve been conditioned to believe that being unruly was social suicide - the opposite of how we needed to act if we wanted to be loved by our peers, respected by our colleagues, and cared for by our partners.

But, what if we told you that the world needs unruly women now more than ever?

What if we told you that its balance depended on it?

If you’re confused, you won’t be after you listen to today’s guest, Emilia Van Hauen!

This is Emilia’s second visit to And She Spoke and the last time we chatted, she left us with a quote that we knew had to be explored further:

“I have something to say about unruly women…”

How could we not have her back after that?

According to Emilia, for society to find equilibrium, women need to stop suppressing themselves and start embracing their ‘unruly’ sides.

Now, her definition of unruliness isn’t what you’ll find in a dictionary.

To her, being unruly means not being constrained by the societal norms that dictate what an ‘ideal woman’ should be like.

And by refusing to constrain your creativity, lust, and physical/emotional strength, you can help the world find the balance that it so desperately needs.

After all, the only way we can grow newer, better, more inclusive communities is if we destroy the systems that aren’t working and lean into what makes each one of us unique.

And the best way to do that is to start with yourself.

If you feel like you’re done being told to stand in a corner, let this episode be your motivation to break the glass ceiling, believe in your creativity, and create a new world with your unruliness.

Here’s what you can expect from this week’s episode:

Why unruliness is the only cure to the “wicked” world we find ourselves in
How Emilia came to realize that being unruly was her creative calling
The three things women are actively judged on and how to break out of the cycle
How women can move past their fear of judgement and criticism
The importance of building a community of individuals who truly support your work
How unruliness is important if you want to make money in your business
Why you should stop looking for permission to feel what you want to feel

And more!

Once you’re done with the episode, find us on Instagram (@heymarvelous) and tell us how you’re living an unruly life!

RESOURCES

This Week’s Joy:

Emilia’s biggest joy right now is her puppy Tintin! She’s so happy that she thinks everyone deserves a little furball in their lives, and we couldn’t agree more.

This Week’s Hustle:

Currently Emilia has been loving everything Brené Brown and regularly listens to Esther Perel’s ‘Where We Should Begin’ podcast to help her take her business (and unruliness!) to the next level.

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