As we know, change is hard for everyone, but if you’ve had a high conflict individual in your life, you know that change for them is seemingly impossible. Our minds tell us that they’re doing it on purpose or at least partially so; and that they can change if they’d just choose that route. But is that a reality? If we start with the premise that people with high conflict personalities don’t even know they have such a thing, why would change?

In this episode, Bill and Megan talk about:

whether people with high conflict personalities know they’re such
whether people with high conflict personalities can change
if change is possible:
- what is the likelihood of change
- what it takes to help them change, such as therapy, programs, those around them
how to approach someone with a high conflict personality HCP about their need for change and whether you should ever do that

NOTE: We are not diagnosing or labeling anyone and neither should anyone listening to this podcast. Instead, we focus on what to do to help.

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Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

(00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
(02:08) - Does an HCP recognize they need to change?
(05:34) - Can an HCP change?
(07:35) - Borderline Personality Type
(08:56) - Narcissistic Personality Type
(10:37) - Histrionic Personality Type
(11:03) - Antisocial Personality Type
(12:09) - Helping Borderline HCPs Change
(13:16) - What It Takes to Help Them Change
(16:01) - Developing Empathy
(18:08) - Time and Repetition
(20:07) - Adapting to the Change in HCPs
(21:09) - Approaching an HCP About Changing
(26:42) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: What if I'm high conflict?

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