Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness 464: When the Marriage Is OVER. Lysa TerKeurst on Narcissistic Abuse 101, Ending Self-Betrayal, and Why Unhealthy People Never Meet a Boundary They Like
Nov 12, 2025
Lysa TerKeurst, President of Proverbs 31 Ministries and bestselling author, shares her journey of ending an unhealthy marriage. She discusses setting boundaries and recognizing when it's biblically wise to let go. Lysa explains the realities of narcissistic abuse, including gaslighting and trauma bonds, offering insights on healing and recovery. She addresses the importance of pre-deciding responses to maintain self-control and encourages listeners to acknowledge their feelings while moving forward. This conversation is a vital lifeline for anyone feeling trapped in chaos.
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Year Of Separation Revealed The Truth
- Lysa TerKeurst described removing her influence during a year-long separation to test whether her husband would change.
- She accepted the painful clarity that he would not become her safe person and moved forward accordingly.
Patterns Become An Operating System
- A repeated choice becomes a pattern, not a mistake.
- Patterns form an operating system that predicts future harm and must be addressed, not minimized.
Match Access To Responsibility
- Reduce the access you grant others down to their demonstrated level of responsibility.
- Put boundaries on yourself by limiting access rather than trying to force someone to change.
