143: How Ryan Martin Tapped into Ancient Rites of Passage to Overcome Anxiety and Chaos

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“If your nervous system is always set up for chaos rather than peace, it will seek out chaos.” These are the words of Ryan Martin, high performance health and vitality coach, who joins The King Within to share how unhealed stress patterns can sabotage even the most successful men—and reveal why so many of us unconsciously crave drama or struggle to find fulfillment in calm.

Returning from a transformative men’s retreat, Ryan Martin opens up about panic attacks that felt like heart attacks, the heavy cost of overcommitment, and the powerful shift that comes from cleaning up your language and reclaiming trust within yourself and at home. He shares his personal journey of redefining masculinity, learning to be present, and embodying what he calls the “safety blanket with a sword” energy—strength that protects, but also nourishes.

Tune in to this episode of The King Within to discover what rites of passage, nervous system regulation, and intentional language have to do with becoming the man your family runs toward, not away from—and why, for Ryan Martin, true kingship begins with mastering your inner state.

5 Key Takeaways

1. Clean up your language. Drop soft talk—ditch words like “maybe,” “try,” and “possibly”—and speak with clear conviction to double your confidence and deepen trust.
2. Take radical ownership. Stop blaming your parents or circumstances. Integrate the lessons, honor your history, and deliberately choose the man you want to become.
3. Do the real work—physically and emotionally. Practice nervous system regulation, confront your patterns, and embrace vulnerability. Make time to regularly release anger, shame, and guilt through breath, movement, and honest conversation.
4. Prioritize your vitality. Nourish your body with real food, sunlight, movement, and detox. You can’t be a grounded leader or present father if your health is drained—make your vessel strong and resilient.
5. Seek community and rites of passage. Surround yourself with men who challenge and support you. Lean into discomfort, own your story, and commit to ongoing practice and accountability—transformation happens in connection.

Memorable Quotes

"If your nervous system is always set up for chaos rather than peace, it will seek out chaos. So peace feels strange—like there’s nothing to worry about, and that’s uncomfortable. You end up seeking drama or stress because that’s what feels normal."

"True masculinity is like having a safety blanket with a sword. You have the sword and can wield it when necessary, but most of the time, you are the safety blanket for everyone around you—decisive and direct, but rooted in love and integrity."

"The amount of growth you’ll get is measured by how much truth you can hear about yourself and not run away. A lot of this work is about burning away the things that aren’t serving me, so I can step into what does."

Connect with Ryan

Website: https://reviveyourself.co/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryan__martin__/

Revive Yourself with Ryan Martin Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7MrewQRstBC5vr2GFVT7f5

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveNaturalHealth/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOAIBoKV_-keRnNLSptWnSQ/videos

Telegram: https://t.me/RyanMartin_ReviveYourself

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