"Modern Relationships" How to Be Attractive & What Data Says About Dating | Rob Henderson
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Apr 1, 2025 
Rob Henderson, a best-selling author, Air Force veteran, and psychologist, dives into the intriguing world of modern dating and attraction. He discusses how evolutionary psychology explains women's interest in men with dark triad traits, shedding light on the paradox of aggression enhancing appeal. The conversation covers pickup artist culture and the evolving dynamics of dating apps, emphasizing the importance of emotional cues and genuine character development for building meaningful relationships. Discover how societal changes impact men's ability to connect in today’s dating landscape.
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Dark Triad Attraction
- Violence and aggression, even in a heinous act like murder, can paradoxically boost male appeal.
- This may be an evolutionary misfire in the modern world, as seen in women's interest in criminals.
Dark Triad and Short-Term Mating
- Men high in dark triad traits (narcissism, psychopathy, Machiavellianism) often do better in short-term mating.
- This may be due to evolutionary adaptations favoring such traits in the past.
Infanticide and Mate Selection
- In primate societies, infanticide is common, and females may subsequently bond with the infanticidal male.
- This may be an evolutionary strategy to protect future offspring by mating with the most violent male.
