The Baggage Reclaim Sessions Between the Sessions: Future Fakers and Future Faking 👀
Oct 29, 2025
Dive into the intriguing world of future faking, where promises of tomorrow are used to secure benefits today. Discover two types of future fakers—intentional manipulators and reactive over-promisers—and the emotional toll their actions can have. Learn about gaslighting tactics and how to set boundaries to protect yourself. With real-world examples and personal insights, the episode offers practical advice for recovery and encourages listeners to reclaim their worth in relationships.
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Introductions That Promised A Future
- Natalie recounts dating someone who introduced her to his parents and then disappeared after talking about moving in together.
- She used that experience to coin "future faking" and write about it on Baggage Reclaim.
Two Types Of Future Fakers
- Two kinds of future fakers exist: deliberate manipulators and reactive over-promisers.
- Both harm others by creating false expectations that serve immediate needs like sex or ego boosts.
When Intensity Masks Inability To Commit
- Reactive future fakers mean what they say in the moment but panic when follow-through is required.
- They then extricate themselves via disappearance or manufactured conflict.
