Aike Ho (Partner, ACME Capital) and Camilla Hermann (entrepreneur) discuss "relationship yoga" - viewing intimate relationships as paths to growth through how we trigger each other. They explore how relationship patterns reveal unresolved aspects of ourselves and why finding a partner who's willing to evolve together matters more than matching a checklist of ideal traits.

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LINKS

Enneagram personalities https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions/
Dr. Becky "Good Inside" https://www.amazon.com/Good-Inside-Guide-Becoming-Parent/dp/0063159481
Hoffman Process https://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/
Evolution of The Internal Family Systems Model By Dr. Richard Schwartz, Ph. D.: https://ifs-institute.com/resources/articles/evolution-internal-family-systems-model-dr-richard-schwartz-ph-d
Concept of Basic Trust from Book 'Facets of Unity' by AH Almaas: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/2533/facets-of-unity-by-a-h-almaas/

TIMESTAMPS:

(00:00) Intro and Preview

(01:33) What is Relationship Yoga?

(02:22) Relationship as a Canvas for Wholeness

(04:54) Triggers and the Opportunity for Healing

(08:40) Observing and Processing Triggers

(09:38) The Role of Past Experiences

(10:51) Holding Space & Interlocking Patterns

(11:32) Using the Enneagram

(12:56) Example of Reactivity and Softness

(14:00) Reparenting & the Little Ones

(15:39) Interlocking Triggers & Internal Family Systems (IFS)

(16:39) Working with Internal Parts

(20:07) Free Will & Running Patterns

(21:00) Growth, Ego Death & Commitment in Relationships

(23:11) Seeing With Fresh Eyes

(23:16) Sponsor: Relationship Hero

(24:59) The Art of Loving & Unconditional Acceptance

(28:30) Reflections on Being Single

(34:50) Challenges & Bouncing Back

(39:44) Patterns Want to be Liberated

(42:34) Causes of Struggle in Relationships

(55:57) Tension of Triggers and Attraction

(1:00:04) Advice For Making It Fantastic

(1:02:04) Connection: Spark, Attraction, Intimacy

(1:05:23) Wrap

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