Modern psychology has a very complicated relationship with gender. Gender differences have become one of the most contentious areas in the field, and it seems like psychology isn’t entirely sure what to do with men anymore. This is especially true for heterosexual men, who are often viewed through a pathological lens. So in today’s show, we’re going to dive into some controversy. Some of the topics we’ll discuss include why men are often blamed for their own sexual problems, why it’s important to acknowledge gender differences in communication styles, and more.

I am joined once again by Dr. Stephen Snyder, an AASECT certified sex therapist, relationship therapist, and sexual medicine specialist. Dr. Snyder is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City and author of the book LOVE WORTH MAKING: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship.

Some of the questions we address include:

How have the dynamics of heterosexual relationships changed over time?
Why does the field of sex therapy have such a complicated relationship with men and male sexuality?
What are some of the key differences in sexual psychology that are important for people to understand?

You can learn more about Stephen and his work on his website here.

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The Patrick Madrid Show: June 09, 2025 - Hour 2