I Feel That Way Too

Was I His Love Or Fetish?

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Jun 10, 2025
This conversation dives into the uncomfortable question of why many Asian women are in relationships with white men. It explores the complexities of love, race, and identity, tackling issues like fetishization and societal expectations. Personal stories highlight the emotional burdens and challenges of intimacy in interracial dynamics. Listeners are invited to reflect on their own experiences and the impact of societal perceptions on relationships. The dialogue encourages curiosity and compassion, creating a safe space for deeper understanding in a nuanced discussion.
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INSIGHT

Oxford Study Is Internet Trolling

  • The phrase "Oxford study" is a made-up meme trolling Asian women who date white men, aimed at shaming and stripping their complexity.
  • This reveals racist and misogynistic intent that targets Asian women specifically, not the white men they date.
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Patterns in Asian-White Marriages

  • Asian women are almost twice as likely to marry white men compared to Asian men, a reality that sparks questions about internalized racism and fetishization.
  • Michelle MiJung Kim reflects on her own relationships as examples of internalized racism and being fetishized.
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Criticism Flattens Complex Identities

  • The criticism of Asian women dating white men demands uncomfortable self-reflection and exposes feelings of superiority, inferiority, and a lack of agency.
  • This critique flattens complex identities into simplistic racial judgments leading to violent shaming.
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