116. The Art of Money with Bari Tessler (Pt 2): Money Dates, Money & Parenting, Different Earning Power

In part 2, Bari Tessler shares her framework for Couples Money Dates, how to navigate power imbalances when one partner earns more, financial polarization & hidden money dynamics, the mental & emotional loads of money in partnerships, how to teach kids about money (without passing down shame), somatic tools to shift your relationship with money. If you want more financial intimacy, clarity, and teamwork in your partnership, this one’s for you!

“The Art Of We” podcast with Krista Van Derveer and Dr. Will Van Derveer

(00:00) Power, control, and financial conditions in childhood

(02:09) Money and power dynamics in relationships

(04:28) The first step to financial healing

(10:51) Navigating financial inequality in partnerships & gender role expectations

(12:01) Mental load, household labor & financial responsibility

(15:45) Financial shifts in long-term relationships & life transitions

(19:36) Couples Money Dates: The 4 phases for financial intimacy & teamwork

(29:23) Releasing shame & continually evolving

(30:28) Teaching kids about money

(34:33) How to talk to kids about financial privilege

(37:24) Turning toward money conversations rather than avoiding them

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Resources Mentioned: 

• Our Top 10 Relationship Agreements 
• Bari Tessler: The Art Of Money
• Soul Of Money - L. Twist
• Prince Charming Isn’t Coming - B. Stanny
• Fair Play - E. Rodsky
• The Opposite Of Spoiled - R. Lieber
• Make Your Kid A Money Genius - B. Kobliner

Get in Touch: 

• The Art Of We Website
• The Art of We Instagram 
• Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Psychedelic Therapy Training

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