Jamie Lynn - The Michael Sartain Podcast

Jamie Lynn is a marriage and family therapist, FHM cover model, and returning guest on the podcast. She openly shares her personal journey through abuse, healing, and professional growth, offering insight into mental health, narcissism, and self-worth. Her experience gives her a powerful and compassionate voice in both therapy and public conversations. 00:00:00 – Intro 00:01:12 – Clarifying The Drama 00:02:25 – Is He a Narcissist or Just Not Into You? 00:03:37 – Patterns vs Red Flags 00:04:50 – Empathy or Lip Service? 00:06:02 – Women and the Victim Mindset 00:07:15 – Misusing Pop Psychology 00:08:27 – Victimhood as an Identity 00:09:40 – Manipulation Through Guilt 00:10:53 – The Trap of Empath Label 00:12:05 – Nobody Really Cares 00:13:18 – “That Won’t Work for Me” Syndrome 00:14:30 – Linking Therapy & Fitness 00:15:43 – Physical Health, Mental Health 00:16:55 – Skirting Around the Truth 00:18:08 – What Body Positivity Hides 00:19:20 – Therapists and Avoidance 00:20:33 – CBT vs Real Change 00:21:46 – Rewiring the Brain 00:22:58 – Behavioral Activation Basics 00:24:11 – Depression vs Inactivity 00:25:24 – The “Just Move” Advice Debate 00:26:36 – Labeling People Isn't Helpful 00:27:49 – Diagnosing Doesn't Fix It 00:29:01 – Narcissist vs NPD 00:30:14 – Court-Ordered Therapy Explained 00:31:27 – Behavior Without Remorse 00:32:39 – Stop Dating Red Flags 00:33:52 – Healing Without Closure 00:35:04 – Bullet Removal Analogy 00:36:17 – Imposter Syndrome or Self-Doubt 00:37:30 – Split Thinking in Success 00:38:42 – The Root is Low Self-Esteem 00:39:55 – Specific vs Situational Confidence 00:41:07 – Authenticity vs Insecurity 00:42:20 – Childhood Trauma & Belief 00:43:32 – Abusive Home Life 00:44:45 – Religious Confusion & Abuse 00:45:57 – Growing Through Education 00:47:10 – Forgiveness Is For You 00:48:22 – Letting Go of Justice 00:49:35 – Closure Is Not Reconnection 00:50:48 – Resentment Bonds You 00:52:00 – Forgiveness and Spiritual Freedom 00:53:13 – Narcissist Still Controls You 00:54:25 – Heal to Stop Obsessing 00:55:38 – Abundance as Antidote 00:56:51 – Betrayal Still Hurts 00:58:03 – Forgiveness Is Daily Work 00:59:16 – Busy Over Bitter 01:00:28 – Power of Forward Vision 01:01:41 – No One Is Coming to Save You 01:02:53 – How She Met Her Ex 01:04:06 – Attracted to Power 01:05:18 – First Signs of Manipulation 01:06:31 – Creating Jealousy Early 01:07:43 – Triangulation Tactics 01:08:56 – Control Through Insecurity 01:10:08 – Going to Therapy After Abuse 01:11:21 – Why She Chose Psychology 01:12:34 – Knowing Her Purpose Early 01:13:46 – Happiness Through Work 01:14:59 – Not Idle, Not Depressed 01:16:11 – Focus on the Future 01:17:24 – Saving Herself, Not Waiting 01:18:36 – First Red Flags in Marriage 01:19:49 – Idealizing False Safety 01:21:02 – Ignoring the Warning Signs 01:22:14 – When Love is a Trauma Bond 01:23:27 – Psychological Abuse Isn’t Loud 01:24:39 – The Power of Projection 01:25:52 – Living for Someone Else 01:27:04 – Silence as a Weapon 01:28:17 – Leaving Without Closure 01:29:30 – Self-Worth After Breakup 01:30:42 – Dating While Healing 01:31:55 – Falling Into Old Patterns 01:33:07 – Looking for Safe Chaos 01:34:20 – Why Trauma Feels Like Home 01:35:33 – Fantasy Relationships 01:36:45 – Emotional Safety vs Excitement 01:37:58 – Recognizing Real Love 01:39:10 – Drama Isn’t Chemistry 01:40:23 – Trust Takes Time 01:41:35 – Slow is Safe 01:42:48 – Conflict Avoidance Patterns 01:44:01 – Learning to Speak Up 01:45:13 – Boundaries Are Self-Love 01:46:26 – When to Walk Away 01:47:38 – Coaching vs Counseling 01:48:51 – What Clients Really Need 01:50:04 – Accountability Over Validation 01:51:16 – The Truth About Change 01:52:29 – Helping People Who Won’t Help Themselves 01:53:41 – Final Thoughts on Narcissism 01:54:54 – Leaving the Past Behind 01:56:06 – Stay Grounded in Reality 01:57:19 – The Power of Reflection 01:58:31 – Own Your Healing 01:59:44 – Thank You Jamie Lynn