2714: When Intentional Parenting Kinda Sucks by Shawna Scafe of Simple on Purpose on Motherhood
May 5, 2024
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Shawna Scafe shares the challenges of aligning parenting expectations with reality, focusing on family road trips and the pressures of intentional parenting. Her personal anecdotes offer comfort to parents navigating the ideals versus the actualities of raising children.
Parenting ideals often clash with reality, creating challenges and frustrations in raising children.
Self-reflection and support are crucial in navigating the difficulties of intentional parenting and maintaining love and kindness.
Deep dives
Challenges of Intentional Parenting
Despite setting clear ideas on how they wanted to parent their kids and the qualities they wanted them to develop, the speaker found that implementing these intentions could be challenging. Specific example includes road trips with their kids being a stressful experience, especially due to one child's dislike for car rides. Despite the difficulties, they acknowledge the importance of family togetherness and surrounding their kids with love and positive experiences.
Dealing with Overwhelm and Anger
The speaker recounts a challenging road trip experience where the stress of managing three young children in the car led to feelings of overwhelm and frustration. They reflect on their reactive behavior, triggered by fear and stress, and recognize the need to address their anger and irrational reactions. After a period of self-reflection and reading a scripture passage, they express gratitude for the support and understanding of their partner, highlighting the importance of learning to act with love and intention.
Embracing Imperfection and Learning
Describing themselves as a 'homebody mom' aspiring to provide worldly experiences for their children, the speaker reflects on the contrast between idealized goals and the reality of parenting challenges. They acknowledge the need to embrace imperfections, navigate discomfort, and learn to love intentionally. Despite the struggles and self-doubt, they find support in their partner and the journey of intentional parenting teaches them valuable lessons in love and acceptance.
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Episode 2714:
In "When Intentional Parenting Kinda Sucks," Shawna Scafe candidly shares the complexities of aligning parenting expectations with reality. This heartfelt reflection explores the challenges of family road trips and the pressures of intentional parenting. Shawna's personal anecdotes offer comfort and camaraderie to parents grappling with their ideals versus the actualities of raising children.
"Sometimes those ‘things’ and ‘intentions’ kind of suck to put into progress."
"I get so overwhelmed with the crying and the fits. I get so frustrated that I become irrational. THEN every little thing that has ever made me mad is like, ‘oh heeeeey! you haven’t thought about me in a while, let’s hang out in your brain and mess up your ability to be loving and kind’."