79: Your Kid Isn’t the Problem - The Power Struggle Is Sabotaging Your Parenting with Vivek Patel.

What if parenting didn’t have to be a battle of wills? And wouldn't it be nice to welcome your child's "no!" instead of it igniting a power struggle?! I feel you.

Today on the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting Podcast, I sit down with Vivek Patel, founder of Meaningful Ideas, to explore what some call a radical yet deeply effective approach—Noncoercive Collaborative Parenting.

Vivek shares why kids resist us more when they trust us less - and how the common fallback to coercion damages that trust.

But instead of simply telling us what not to do, Vivek offers clear, practical steps for building a relationship where cooperation flows naturally.

We dive into:

✨ The "Model, Guide, Friend" framework and how it can transform your parenting.

✨ Why hearing “no” from our kids feels so triggering and how to embrace it as a gift.

✨ How to teach kids to set boundaries and resist peer pressure, without controlling them.

✨ Debunking the myth that noncoercive parenting raises “soft snowflakes” or kids who walk all over us.

✨ Inspiring through values—and the importance of knowing and living your own.

Vivek also shares his personal journey of raising his now-28-year-old daughter this way—despite being raised in a home filled with control and coercion. His insights are powerful, practical, and guaranteed to shift the way you think about guiding your child.

💡 One of Vivek’s most powerful reminders:

“When your child says no, say: ‘Thank you so much for telling your truth.’” Mindblowing?! Yup. Have you ever tried it? Probably not. Radical, powerful - TRY IT.

If you’re ready to move beyond power struggles and create a parenting approach built on trust, connection, and collaboration—this episode is for you.

🎧 Tune in now and discover how to guide your child while respecting their voice.

Find out more about Vivek’s work here:

W: meaningfulideas.com

IG: @meaningfulideas

FB: facebook.com/meaningfulideas

YT: youtube.com/c/meaningfulideas

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