Skip The Small Talk with Ellie Middleton nobody likes a direct woman ✋ | Skip The Small Talk with Ellie Middleton
Nov 10, 2024
Exploring the challenges of direct communication, Ellie discusses why women face backlash for being straightforward. She delves into the energy drain from being misunderstood and the assumptions people make about directness. The idea of a 'direct day' highlights the fear of social costs in honesty. Ellie reflects on the delicate balance of being praised for directness while needing to control tone and framing in society. Ultimately, she expresses a desire for clarity in relationships to alleviate anxiety.
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Fear Of Misunderstanding Drives Communication Pain
- Ellie Middleton realises her communication struggle is driven more by fear of being misunderstood than by talking itself.
- She connects this to relationships and social assumptions shaping how direct speech is received.
The Book Sparked A 'Freedom To Be Disliked' Thought
- Ellie describes listening to The Courage To Be Disliked and feeling the freedom of being disliked as authenticity.
- She links that idea to her interpersonal exhaustion and worry about others' reactions.
Negative Intent Is Read Into Neutral Speech
- Ellie notices people assume negative intent from direct women and autistic communicators even when statements are neutral.
- That assumption forces her into constant prefacing and masking to avoid being labelled nasty.
