Robot Unicorn What Kids Need Most When Parents Divorce
Jan 5, 2026
Jess and Scott tackle the tough realities of divorce and its impact on children. They reveal that parental conflict, rather than separation, is the real culprit harming kids. The duo shares insights on 'conflict shielding' to keep children away from adult disputes. They emphasize the importance of a single stable caregiver and how predictability helps kids thrive. Additionally, Jess discusses age-appropriate communication about divorce, while Scott highlights the significance of being a consistent source of love and safety.
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Conflict, Not Divorce, Drives Harm
- Ongoing parental conflict, not divorce itself, causes the most harm to children.
- A peaceful, predictable bond with at least one stable caregiver protects long-term development.
Kids Learn Relationship Norms From Parents
- Children model relationship expectations from parental behavior and internalize conflict as normal.
- Parents may leave to avoid teaching kids that toxic interactions are acceptable.
Always Conflict Shield Your Kids
- Shield children from parental conflict by avoiding triangulation and not using them as messengers or spies.
- Tell kids the situation is not their fault and reassure them of love and safety.