Recovery from depression is not a straight line—it’s a journey of progress, setbacks, and resilience. In this candid episode, Lacey shares what she’s learned both as someone who has lived with depression and now works as a mental health provider.

She explains why setbacks and relapses are not failures but opportunities to grow stronger and develop new coping tools. Lacey also emphasizes the power of listening without judgment, holding space for someone in pain, and resisting the urge to “fix” what can’t be fixed with quick words.

This episode offers insight for anyone living with depression and for those who want to know how to truly support someone they love.

Primary Topics Covered:

Why recovery from depression is non-linear and more like a circle than a straight line
The difference between relapse and failure—and why setbacks can make you stronger
How people without lived experience may misunderstand depression recovery
The importance of recognizing early warning signs of depression returning
How friends can support: listening, holding space, and avoiding “fix-it” advice
Why people with depression often just need presence, not solutions
Language and questions that make support easier and safer
The harm of turning conversations toward your own experience instead of listening
Why being truly heard is one of the most healing gifts in depression recovery

Timestamps:

00:11 Introduction to the episode with Terri and Dr. Anita Sands
01:02 Personal vs. expert perspectives on depression
02:31 Lacey’s experience as both therapy patient and provider
03:31 Why recovery is not linear but cyclical
05:20 How relapse and setbacks can actually build resilience
06:55 Recognizing early warning signs before a deep slide
07:38 Supporting a friend with bipolar disorder by holding space
09:19 What people with depression most need from supporters: presence and listening
10:36 Why asking for support is so difficult—and how to make it easier
11:12 The lie of isolation: remembering you’re not truly alone
12:19 Language supporters can use to make reaching out safer
13:03 Asking: “Do you want advice, solutions, or just someone to listen?”
14:19 Why journaling and therapy work: being heard and externalizing thoughts
14:56 The mistake of “me too” stories that shift focus away from the person struggling
16:39 The deep human need to be seen and heard
17:55 Takeaways: notice, re-ask, and listen as the best ways to help
20:07 How to check in while respecting someone’s boundaries
22:15 Creative ways to remind someone they’re not alone (humor, small gestures)
23:44 Why relapse is not failure but part of recovery
24:41 Closing thoughts and resources

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