Judson Kauffman: Bridging the Generational Gap - Strategies for Supporting Today's Young Men

Finding purpose and identity as a young man today can feel overwhelming, with so many conflicting expectations pulling you in different directions. It’s easy to push away potential mentors, especially when you’re unsure if their guidance truly aligns with your path. That sense of being lost often comes from trying to navigate it all on your own, unsure of where you fit or how to move forward. Sometimes, purpose starts to take shape when you allow yourself to learn from others while still carving out a path that feels authentically yours.

Judson Kauffman, entrepreneur, speaker, and CEO of EVRYMAN, has dedicated his career to helping men embrace personal growth and self-awareness. Drawing on his military and business experiences, Judson shares his journey from battling fear and identity struggles to becoming a leader. He shines the spotlight on the importance of modern rites of passage and building resilience in young men. Join in as young leaders pose inquiries about life, personal development, and beyond!

Quotes:

• “I had no idea what I was going to do. I had some interests, but not a lot of confidence, not a lot of self-love. I kind of rejected the mentors who were available at that time, which started a tough stage for me.” – Judson Kauffman
• “I think it's very rare that a boy, young man, or man in our modern society feels total, unconditional love from those who raise him. I think that's the exception rather than the rule.” – Judson Kauffman
• “When we identify ourselves by something in the external environment, we moor the most important part of ourselves to a moving target—a target we have no control over.” – Judson Kauffman
• “You pivot. All of it happens because you're taking action. None of it happens by sitting on the couch and just wishing for it to take place.” – Matt Beaudreau

Takeaways:

• Reflect on your own identity and how it is tied to external roles or achievements. Consider how you can cultivate a deeper sense of self beyond these external factors.
• Identify opportunities to facilitate meaningful rites of passage for the young men in your life, whether through intentional ceremonies, challenges, or experiences that mark their transition to adulthood.
• Examine your risk-taking approach and consider the difference between calculated risks and reckless gambles. Seek to balance self-belief with an understanding of what is truly within your control.
• Encourage the young men in your life to seek guidance and practical advice from trusted mentors, such as fathers or father figures, rather than relying solely on impersonal online resources.
• Find ways to support organizations that are dedicated to helping men and young men develop self-awareness, emotional depth, and a sense of purpose.

Conclusion:

Rites of passage and mentorship are vital for helping young men grow into self-aware, emotionally intelligent individuals with a strong sense of purpose. These practices encourage them to move beyond superficial achievements and focus on living with integrity and understanding. By cultivating these qualities, young men gain the skills to face life’s challenges with confidence and clarity. This guidance doesn’t just shape individuals—it creates stronger, more resilient communities.