69. Healthy Sex in Marriage with Mary Whitman Ortiz

There isn’t enough lace on the planet to make up for low self-value and trust in the marriage. Have you ever felt like you were in the “dog house”? Mary Whitman Ortiz, MA, CLC is a Christian sex educator, relationship coach, author, and speaker. In this revealing episode, she talks about all the sexual things you maybe are afraid to talk about. She shares her testimony of being in a “Christian” marriage where she felt it was “her fault”, “she deserved it” and needed to give her husband more sex and more variety. As she learned there was a porn addiction, she was able to learn that it is a big deal, that the images are in your brain and that abstinence doesn’t equal deliverance. She realized that she wasn’t being honored and valued and she had fallen prey to emotional abuse. Most importantly, she learned that she wasn’t valuing herself and was blocking herself from God’s intent for marriage and healthy sexuality. As Mary went through a divorce and re-marriage, she was able to slowly heal many myths she had believed.

There is a mental YES that must happen before your body can engage in sex. We can’t just focus on the mechanics of sex. The most important thing for intimacy is self-value and self-awareness. Be inspired by Mary’s raw honesty and encouraging teaching about healthy sex in a marriage!

Mary’s website: www.marywhitmanortiz.com  

Follow Mary on Instagram: @marywhitmanortiz

Find more about Heidi: www.heidimortensonlmft.com

If you are in crisis, help is available by call or text 1-800-273-8255 24/7. You can also visit https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org. You are loved!