The Lila Rose Show E272: When Your Kids Won’t Listen: Dr. Ray's Must-Know Tools | Lila Rose Show
Dec 5, 2025
In this engaging discussion, Dr. Ray Guarendi, a clinical psychologist and father of ten, shares invaluable parenting advice drawn from decades of experience. He addresses the challenges of children who won't listen and offers practical strategies, like the ‘blackout technique’ to enforce consequences effectively. Dr. Ray emphasizes the importance of consistency, discipline, and the need for high expectations. He also discusses navigating difficult adult relationships and the delicate balance of family planning, providing a refreshing blend of humor and wisdom throughout.
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Discipline With Confident Consistency
- Have disciplined confidence: mean what you say and say what you mean when parenting multiple children.
- Build clear expectations backed by consequences so rules are enforceable and sustainable.
Affection Strengthens Authority
- Be very affectionate, especially dads: affection reinforces standards and connection even when kids don't immediately understand.
- Public, consistent affection builds security and models love for peers.
Define Discipline Clearly
- Define discipline as an expectation backed by a consequence; stop mistreatment first, then teach better behavior.
- Act before frustration escalates to preserve credibility and calm authority.
