Sons of Patriarchy How Patriarchy Makes a Mockery of the Gospel and Destroys Lives
Dec 22, 2025
In this engaging discussion, Zach Wagner, Director of programs at the Center for Pastor Theologians and author of Non-Toxic Masculinity, critiques the damaging effects of patriarchy on both men and women. He explores how traditional views of masculinity are rooted in toxic performance rather than gospel values. Wagner challenges narratives that equate masculinity with dominance, highlighting the need for a more sacrificial and gentle definition of manhood. The conversation sheds light on the legalistic pressures within churches that perpetuate these harmful dynamics.
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Masculinity As Performance, Not Being
- Patriarchy in this movement makes male identity depend on performed toughness rather than inherent personhood.
- Peter Bell argues this performance-based masculinity distorts the gospel and produces harmful expectations.
Scripture Doesn’t Idolize Sexual Or Muscular Success
- Zach Wagner says the New Testament rarely elevates sexual fulfillment or macho strength as central to discipleship.
- He rejects the idea that Christianity's core is guaranteeing great sex or hypermasculine performance.
Move To A Patriarchal Church Changed Her Marriage
- A woman moved her family to Oklahoma and found the new church heavily Doug Wilson–influenced and legalistic.
- Her husband became radicalized by patriarchal teachings and she grew increasingly alarmed.