Your Kids Don’t Suck: Cultivating Closeness with your Kids through Non-Coercive, Conscious Parenting

Reparenting the Self: A Non-Parent’s Journey Applying the Collaborative Parenting Philosophy to BPD Recovery and Reparenting

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Mar 30, 2025

Joey D’Angelo, a social media manager and communications specialist, embarks on a transformative journey of self-reparenting while navigating Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). They explore the concepts of emotional regulation and mutual respect, discussing how non-coercive principles can lead to personal healing. Joey shares methods for nurturing the inner child, unlearning harsh self-talk, and embracing childlike wonder in recovery. Their insights into collaborative parenting reveal powerful strategies for building self-trust and fostering empathy, regardless of parental status.

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ANECDOTE

Joey's Upbringing

Joey D'Angelo's parents were young when they had them, leading to invalidation of Joey's needs.
Joey was adultified early on due to family circumstances, further hindering self-discovery.

INSIGHT

BPD Manifestations

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) manifests as a lack of self-trust and difficulty expressing needs.
Recovering from BPD involves building self-trust and recognizing inner strength.

ANECDOTE

Empowerment through Non-Coercion

Joey's self-discovery and application of non-coercive principles has been empowering.
They plan to use these principles in their future parenting journey.

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In this episode, we sit down with our social media manager/helper/everything-assistant, Joey D’Angelo, who shares their relationship with our work on the podcast. Joey is not a parent, but is full of childlike wonder and endless compassion, and has been on a recovery journey which includes reparenting herself. What happens when we turn the principles of mutual respect, emotional regulation, and co-regulation inward?

Joey shares the impact of their upbringing and how that led to their development of Borderline Personality Disorder (aka Emotional Dysregulation), and their journey through BPD recovery, re-building self-trust, reparenting, and applying conscious parenting methods to heal inner wounds. Together we explore reparenting through the lens of collaborative parenting—without parenting any children.

On this episode, we discuss: ✨ What is reparenting is, and how to recover our inherent self-trust

✨ Learning new relational languages that are non-coercive, and how this neurological rewiring is challenging in the short term, but will create more peaceful relationships in the long term.

✨ How collaborative parenting principles—like connection over correction—apply to self-growth and personal healing

✨ Practical ways to nurture your inner child with empathy and patience ✨ The challenges and breakthroughs of unlearning harsh self-talk and internalized criticism

Whether you're a parent or not, this conversation offers powerful insights into healing, self-trust, and cultivating an internal environment of love and understanding.

Joey is a gender non-conforming, neurodivergent queer in their mid-30s. They are a white, AFAB non-parent, single person who has a value system rooted in understanding intersectionality and developing communities where equity precedes privilege. They worked in film and TV for 7 years, ran their own business between 2018 and 2021, and have worked in events, marketing, and social media for over a decade. Joey lives with Borderline Personality Disorder (also referred to as Emotional Dysregulation) in Toronto, Canada and is actively involved in justice for people who are insecurely housed, and their BPD diagnosis has completely shifted the way they care for themself, offering a North Star that's rooted in balance, comfort, and fun.

Get in touch with them:

Instagram, TikTok, YouTube: @hi.itsjoey

Website: www.joeydangelo.squarespace.com