Mastering Coaching Skills 241. How Self-Blame Harms Your Coaching And How to Break Free
Jun 10, 2025
Dive into the struggles coaches face with self-blame and its crippling effects on their success. Discover how this mindset can create a self-fulfilling prophecy, keeping you stuck. Learn a powerful reframe question that helps break the cycle of self-judgment. Hear transformative stories of coaches who turned perceived flaws into strengths. Plus, gain practical tips on embracing authenticity and redirecting your thoughts, paving the way for personal growth and stronger client relationships.
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Client's Self-Doubt Story
- Lindsay Dotzlaf shares a client story revealing deep self-doubt about being smart enough to run a successful business.
- This belief led the client to hesitate and slow down, impacting her business results negatively.
Brain Chooses Efficiency Not Growth
- The brain prefers efficiency over growth, favoring familiar self-blaming thoughts.
- This natural tendency keeps people stuck instead of encouraging effortful problem-solving for growth.
How to Redirect Self-Blame
- Notice when self-blame arises by identifying your unique signs or behaviors.
- Use the reframe question: "If it's not an inherent flaw, what else could I explore to solve this?"