Sex Love Psychedelics 174: Untangling Resentment, “Needs” + Patterns of Enduring Unwanted Touch with Dr Betty Martin
Jun 12, 2025
Dr. Betty Martin, a retired chiropractor and expert in consent dynamics, shares her profound insights on intimacy and boundaries. She unpacks the complexities of giving and receiving, emphasizing the importance of trusting your inner 'no.' Betty discusses how societal pressures can stifle authentic desires and showcases the transformative 'three-minute game' for improving communication in relationships. Additionally, she explores the role of resentment in intimacy and the need for heightened tactile awareness to foster trust and safety.
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Understanding Sexual Enmeshment
- Sexual enmeshment occurs when we take responsibility to elicit a partner’s pleasure or response.
- This blurs boundaries and shifts focus from their experience to our agenda or insecurities.
Wheel of Consent Basics
- The Wheel of Consent disentangles giving and receiving into clear roles practiced alone or with a partner.
- Taking turns focusing solely on one role reveals authentic desires and boundaries without confusion.
Try The Three Minute Game
- Practice the three minute game to safely explore what you want and what you want to do to someone.
- Slow down and pause to truly connect with your desires and build communication skills around touch.
