93. How to Stop Hurting Ourselves By Making Negative Assumptions (Pt. 4)

Have you ever invited someone else for an evening, and they said no without an explanation, and you began to wonder why? Have you done something wrong? Really upset you about something? You began to assume that they no longer liked you or  wanted to have a relationship with you, and you keep telling yourself that story.

Or, have you ever called someone or texted and they did not return your message? And called again, and still no return calls. What did you do wrong? Why were they avoiding you? Are they agitated at you about something?

We frequently cause ourselves pain by making assumptions about other people, their feelings, emotions, and actions. We do not know if those assumptions are true, and they are often very negative. We place ourselves in a negative mindset by assuming the worst.

Does that ever happen to you? If so, you are not alone. In this episode, we will examine we the third of Don Miguel Ruiz’s four agreements, “don’t make assumptions.” We will discuss the problem with making such assumptions, why we make assumptions, and how we benefit from not making assumptions. I review in detail these six tools to help us not make assumptions:

1. Practice self-awareness. 

2. Ask for clarification.

3. Speak our truth.

4. Practice self-compassion.

5. Focus on the truth.

6. Choose positive thoughts

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