Are there rules for making plans with friends? Who should be the one to suggest the day, time, and place? If you reach out for plans, should you also throw out some dates that might work? OR, do you wait for the other person to "prove" their interest by offering some dates on the calendar?

The short answer: there are no rules.

The longer answer (only 16 minutes), is this week's episode-- "Rules for Making Plans With Friends." It's the newest letter spotlight episode, which gave me the chance to answer two anonymous friendship dilemmas and talk about a long-held pet peeve of mine when making plans.

I hope this episode helps you schedule time with friends!

Resources and links mentioned in the episode:

Previous letter spotlight episode: "Friendships Between Sisters-in-Law"
Previous letter spotlight episode: "Friends Who Never Ask About You"
Episode 120 with Emma Nadler: "6 Ways to Be a More Generous Friend"
The Joy of Connections by Ruth Westheimer and Allison Gilbert
Episode 116 with Allison Gilbert: "Lose Track of Who Makes the Plans and 7 Other Friendship Tips From Dr. Ruth"

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