Swoon: Love Lessons with Julie and Gina Sex Without Stress with Jessa Zimmerman
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Nov 1, 2021 
Jessa Zimmerman, a nationwide certified sex therapist and author of 'Sex Without Stress,' joins the hosts to discuss how sexual connection can be achieved without anxiety. She emphasizes that sex requires work, not perfection, and explores how rigid expectations often lead to the avoidance cycle. Jessa introduces a playful metaphor to shift focus from performance to shared pleasure. The conversation also highlights the importance of communication and flexibility in addressing differing desires, centering connection, and adapting intimacy over time.
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Sex Changes With Life — It's Not Broken
- Sex requires ongoing adaptation because life events and cycles change how it works.
- Believing sexual difficulty means you're 'broken' prevents practical solutions and fuels distress.
Break The Sexual Avoidance Cycle
- Avoid the avoidance cycle by noticing disappointment that leads you to skip intimacy.
- Reduce pressure by increasing opportunities so each encounter carries less expectation.
From Goal Line To Playground
- Rigid outcome-focused expectations make sex a pass/fail task and create stress.
- Framing sexual time as a playful outing removes the need for a specific result and opens possibility.
