Big Think Learn these 3 triggers to navigate conflict like an expert | Jefferson Fisher for Big Think+
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Oct 31, 2025 
Jefferson Fisher, a Texas board-certified personal injury attorney and communication expert, dives into transforming conflict into connection. He argues that winning arguments often costs us respect and trust. Instead of controlling conversations, he encourages listeners to explore underlying triggers that escalate tensions. Fisher discusses the fight or flight response in conflicts and highlights the importance of self-awareness and curiosity in communication. Discover how to turn disputes into opportunities for stronger relationships!
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Winning Costs More Than You Think
- Winning an argument often costs the relationship by creating silence, contempt, or loss of respect.
- Jefferson Fisher reframes arguments as knots to be unraveled rather than battles to be won.
Arguments Trigger Biology First
- Disagreement triggers a biological fight-or-flight response that tightens communication.
- The moment between what was said and how you respond determines whether the conversation improves or worsens.
Control Yourself First
- Control your own reactions instead of trying to control the other person in the conversation.
- Jefferson Fisher says self-control in that moment creates better outcomes than attempting to control others.
