Child psychologist Dr. Kevin Leman and family therapist Jean Daly discuss setting rules to keep children safe. They explore showing respect while giving rules, understanding children's behavior, and building trust and respect with sons.
Behavior rules focus on external actions like self-control, while character rules emphasize internal values like honesty.
Parents should acknowledge and respect their child's unique traits and paths in life.
Deep dives
Establishing Behavior and Character Rules
Within the podcast episode, the importance of setting both behavior and character rules for children is discussed. Behavior rules focus on external actions that need to be controlled, such as self-control of speech and actions. On the other hand, character rules emphasize internal values like honesty and humility. By implementing rules tailored to each child's age and stage of development, parents can guide behavior while shaping their character.
Understanding a Child's Individual Nature
The podcast delves into recognizing and understanding a child's inherent characteristics and tendencies. It highlights the significance of acknowledging each child's unique bent and paths in life. Parents are encouraged to be aware of projecting their own unfulfilled dreams or expectations onto their children. By comprehending and respecting a child's individual nature, parents can navigate and support their growth effectively.
Balancing Rules with Respect and Encouragement
The episode emphasizes the balance between setting rules for children and showing them respect and encouragement. It underscores the importance of conveying love and respect for children while still enforcing rules. Encouraging children to make wise decisions and praising their positive actions fosters a sense of responsibility and builds a strong character. Recognizing and pointing out a child's successes and efforts positively reinforces their behavior.
Rules are designed to keep your child safe. So, how do you respond when your son hates rules? John and Danny share how you can show your child respect, even when giving him rules. Featuring Dr. Kevin Leman and Jean Daly.