015: Family Obligations | Being a family man amidst high responsibilities

In this episode, The Barakah Effect team has a look at the typical day in the life of the contemporary family man, the challenges that we face, examples from the deen in fulfilling this role, and we explore strategies on how to be better in our roles as family men, especially as husbands, fathers, and children to our parents!

So what does it mean to be a family man in light of our deen?

The family is the foundational cornerstone of a successful society, and the family man plays a key role in leading the family unit

Allah mentions in the Quran,

‎يٰٓاَيُّهَا الَّذِيْنَ اٰمَنُوْا قُوْٓا اَنْفُسَكُمْ وَاَهْلِيْكُمْ نَارًا

O you who believe, save yourselves and your families from the fire (Surah At-Tahrim, 6)

When one really reflects on this ayah, we begin to appreciate the weight of the responsibility placed on the person with respect to their responsibilities on their family.

So how do we do so effectively, while balancing the heavy responsibilities of our day-to-day duties in our jobs, and personal Islamic obligations?

Join us and find out!

00:00:00 Intro

00:04:13 About being a family man

00:07:15 Getting expectations right

00:09:55 Of absent fathers & negligence

00:14:23 Human limitations & extremes

00:19:09 What parent do you want to be?

00:22:58 Nobody said it was easy, but it has immense rewards

00:26:29 The best of you are the best to your families

00:31:40 Parenting between great reward and severe punishment

00:33:53 Anas bin Malik firsthand experience as a child with Prophet Muhammad

00:35:45 Abu Salamah's impact on his wife

00:37:57 Stories about the 11 wives commenting on each of their husbands

00:43:37 A man's true happiness is in his household

00:47:40 Syaikh Ibn Baz advise on working from home

00:50:10 Quantify your quality time at home

00:54:00 Don’t be a thermometer rather than be a thermostat

00:57:35 Reality check: Children are detached from reality

00:59:00 Mistakes when giving advice

01:04:56 Who tries to be patient, Allah will help you to be patience

01:05:00 Teamwork: Help each other to attain Taqwa

01:11:46 Time block to spend time with your family

01:15:00 It’s a sin to trick your child

01:19:30 The best time to educate our child is during commute time

01:23:00 How do you make time for your spouse when you have kids?

01:27:50 Communicate your expectation clearly

01:31:31 Give your spouse their “me time”

01:35:20 Know your spouse and don’t compare them with others

01:39:40 Its a lifelong learning process

01:44:08 Reality check: How are we to our family?

01:48:08 What would they say about you when you die?

01:52:46 Have mercy to others, especially to your family members

01:58:10 Conclusion