Ideas Grief and the cost of outsourcing feeling
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Oct 2, 2026 
Hanif Abdurraqib, an award-winning poet, essayist, and cultural critic from Columbus, reflects on grief, wonder, belonging, and the people who shape us. He explores music as a language for loss, his mother’s creative legacy, and how writing can serve communities. He also considers home, aging, political honesty, and the danger of outsourcing thought and feeling to technology.
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Make Your Going Away A Sacred Action
- Abdurraqib treats mortality as an active responsibility, not a passive ending, by investing his limited time in other people.
- Sharing his mother’s story lets her briefly live inside strangers’ memories, tying their lives together.
The Letter That Rejected Suffering Hierarchies
- A formerly incarcerated correspondent told Abdurraqib that their lives were connected even when one man’s suffering seemed greater.
- Their exchange replaced guilt with shared gratitude and mutual importance.
How Baby Birds Taught Him To Fly
- Birds nesting above Abdurraqib’s closet shifted from terrified cries into singing before flying away.
- He uses their transformation to describe writing as building feathers for a frightening, unfinished life.
