295 | your happiness is not my responsibility

Well... This series wasn’t planned. It started with us unpacking three phrases that have hit our marriage the hardest: “It’s not my job to make you happy.” “We don’t need each other.” “I’m going to let you down.” Each episode breaks down one of these conversation starters—and what followed was not easy. There are tears. There are real-time arguments. And there are very honest conversations we almost kept private. This is Part 1 of a three-part series. Parts 2 and 3 are coming over the next two weeks—stay tuned. We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Do you agree? Have you had these conversations in your own relationship? ALSO — we have a BOOK. We’re so excited to finally share The Courage to Commit, releasing June 9, 2026.

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(00:00) the series we never planned for

(01:56) I’m not here to make you happy!

(04:09) life updates (reminder, this is a repost episode) 

(06:10) why we are doing this & how we disagree 

(14:20) “the point isn’t the “happiness”, it’s about support”

(23:23) viewing emotions (andrew's pov) 

(29:50) being fully known and loved 

(34:04) do you run away if there is no happiness? 

(39:45) balancing the variables 

(44:18) marriage isn’t about your happiness 

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