Life Check Yourself 432 – Unraveling the top dating myths in the new era with Damona Hoffman.

Jan 10, 2024

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Marni welcomes award-winning podcast host and author Damona Hoffman to the Life Check Yourself Studio, where the duo takes a deep dive into what the dating scene looks like today and what are some of the myths that need to be debunked. They delve into the importance of forging genuine connections by slowing down and reflecting on our dating beliefs. Touching on some of the misleading notions that many of us need to dismantle like the chemistry myth or the soulmate myth, the conversation serves as a new-age manifesto for how to make dating more hopeful and authentic.

Take a good, hard look at your dating beliefs
How to rewrite your own love stories
How to show up with intention

F the Fairytale [10:09]

While it may not be evident, the way we date is passed down from generation to generation. That is, the dos and the don’ts, the etiquette and all that comes with the courting stage. Take a good hard look at your dating beliefs and question them. Why can’t you send the first message? Why can’t you, as a woman, initiate things?

Now our dating pools have expanded everywhere, and yet we’re still playing by these old rules that no longer fit.

Why Are We So Obsessed with Chemistry? [18:05]

Chemistry when dating is a myth that can be damaging. Being curious about the person in front of you rather than holding on to that notion of chemistry is more likely to lead to better results or at the very least a genuine connection, if not a lasting one.

For the chemistry myth, the antidote is clear communication.

Dump the Pick-Me Attitude [23:47]

We all have this deep need to be liked, and it’s a feeling that we’re constantly chasing. It’s been aggravated by social media where we’re constantly trying to one-up each other and prove that we’re better than this or that person.

We don’t have to do all that if we are focusing on authentic connection. First of all, it’s going to be a more interesting date for you. Second of all you’re going to show up differently.

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