If you’re anything like I was, you know the frustration of getting so angry at your husband that it gets ugly and you end up with an emotional hangover. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Once you adopt these 3 practices, everything can change. This is the true confession of a former rageaholic who found a lasting cure. Here’s how to restore peace in your marriage and get your dignity back.

For over a decade, managing my anger was impossible as far as I could tell. I picked on unlucky store clerks, bank tellers and customer service reps. But most of all, I raged at my husband, who suffered through my episodes by saying very little and escaping as soon as he could. The tremendous shame and remorse I felt afterward didn’t help me when the urge arose the next time. But I no longer feel that urge. I haven’t had a Godzilla episode in over 20 years. My clients and coaches also report that their anger subsided and they regained their dignity when they adopted these simple practices.