No Stupid Questions 117. What’s Wrong With Holding a Grudge?
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Oct 2, 2022 Explore the psychological intricacies of holding grudges and the challenges of letting go. The hosts share personal stories about grievances they've held onto and delve into how emotions impact our stability. They discuss the transformative power of forgiveness and sincere apologies, encouraging listeners to reflect on their own experiences. Additionally, the complexities of relationships and the importance of communication are examined, alongside insights from recent psychological studies.
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Grudge Definition
- A grudge is the opposite of forgiveness, signifying an unpaid debt in a relationship.
- It stems from ruminating on a perceived wrong, feeling like a transgression hasn't been addressed.
Internal Forgiveness
- Forgiveness is an intrapersonal phenomenon, meaning you can forgive someone internally.
- This can happen without the other person's involvement, questioning the need for an apology or conversation.
Angela's Grudge
- Angela Duckworth shared a grudge she held against two college friends who spent a day together before visiting her.
- She felt excluded but eventually forgave them, realizing they were closer to each other.