Episode 350 - The Dr. Cloud Show - Shorts - A Lack of Follow-Through vs. Over Commitment
May 19, 2022
Dr. Cloud uncovers the fine line between follow-through and overcommitment. Many believe their failures stem from a lack of follow-through, but often the root issue is taking on too much. He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness in recognizing personal limits and the power of saying no. Listeners learn how overcommitting can lead to burnout and affect relationships. Moreover, navigating passive-aggressive behavior is tackled, advocating for honesty and clear communication as tools for healthier commitments.
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Follow-Through Builds Trust
Trust in relationships grows when people reliably follow through on commitments.
That reliability lets others be carefree and lowers relationship anxiety.
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Intentions Don’t Replace Actions
People judge us by observable behavior, not by our intentions.
Good intentions don't substitute for actual performance in others' eyes.
volunteer_activism ADVICE
Check Your Capacity Before Yes
Before saying yes, check whether you have capacity to execute the commitment.
Avoid writing more time and energy checks than your account can cover.
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In this highlight from the show, Dr. Cloud talks about follow-through. We all commit ourselves to getting things done. Whether that’s helping out a friend, or telling our spouse we’ll do something, whatever it may be. When we fail to get those things done, we might think it’s because we lacked follow-through. But is that it? A lack of follow-through implies that something could have been done but we failed to execute for some reason. In many instances the issue isn’t the follow-through, it’s committing to something when it will overstretch our capacities or resources. How much is on your plate? What can come off your plate to open up your availability? Your problem might not be follow-through, but the inability to say no.
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