Confidence is the number one thing that entrepreneurs tell me wish they had more of.
"I would be able to make more sales, give a speech, and make new friends if I were more confident"
But how to be confident? Confidence has many layers.
First is the outer layer. This is shown in what you wear and how you carry yourself. This is basically one’s charisma. This is what you talk about, and is something that you can work on. This includes one’s body language and posture.
The next layer is what you associate yourself with – what you do for work, where you went to school, who your friends are.
And the final layer, the deep core of confidence and the most important one, is knowing who you are.
So how do you strengthen that inner core of confidence?
Confidence is really a practice of courage – which is perfect for adventurous people! Adventure is one of the best ways to build confidence because it is this conviction that you will be able to succeed even if you’ve never done something before. With confidence, any person would want to make it. You will be convinced that you will be able to gain skill expertise in any new and unknown area.
You need to challenge yourself regularly. Get out of your comfort zone. Try new things. Learn from people who are confident in your ability to connect. Get the mentorship that you need. Have good experience with the people you meet.
So, it’s partly about our ability to connect with people and its partly about our ability to acquire new skills.
Taking a page out of the Native American playbook, they have this tradition where they would sit around the campfire at the end of the day and tell stories of bravery and courage. What this does is it locks in the identity that you are courageous, that you are doing scary, hard, and challenging things. This will help your confidence.
You decide if you’re going to be confident. It always comes down to our identity. And if you look back to all the challenges that you’ve conquered throughout your life, and tell stories of it, this really confirms for you that you are an amazing person!
Start telling stories of your courage and bravery, and your successes. Convince others and at the same time, convince yourself. Most importantly, tell yourself that you are a confident person.
Walk into that room and take control, just like a confident person would!
So, ask yourself: What could you do if you were completely confident?
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