Dr. Will and Krista Van Derveer discuss why loving a partner exactly the way they are may not be compatible with growth and support in a relationship. They argue that unconditional love can become a cop-out for not truly supporting one another to step into their greatest potential, and that growth as a couple requires the willingness to acknowledge and address blind spots together.

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The importance of challenging each other to grow and expand
Where couples get stuck in their partnership
Creating the context in relationship to support each other to see blind spots
Examples of how to approach one another with a challenge
Communication skills for healthy relationships
Taking on the role of holding our partners to live into their greatest expression

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3 Game Changing Conversations Every Couple Must Have
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Integrative Psychiatry Institute: Mental Wellness & Psychedelic Therapy Training

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83. Why You Shouldn’t Love Your Partner Exactly The Way They Are