#35 - Victim Mindset, Impostor Syndrome, and Subconscious Beliefs - Kim Kokoska, Mary's Executive Coach

In this episode of Pearls On, Gloves Off

Mary sits down with her own own executive coach, Kim Kokoska, for a deep dive into the psychology of self-perception and empowerment. Listen in as they unpack some transformative ideas:

• Victim vs. Observer Mindsets: dissecting the 'victim triangle', featuring the roles of victim, persecutor, and rescuer. They explore how we often oscillate between these roles in interactions.

• Embracing the Empowerment Triangle: Transitioning from victimhood, they introduce the 'empowerment triangle', a framework comprising the observer or creator, the asserter or challenger, and the nurturer or coach. This model encourages proactive, empowering approaches to life's challenges.

• Subconscious Beliefs: Delving into psychology, they discuss how our early experiences shape subconscious beliefs, impacting our responses and behaviors in adulthood.

• The Role of Personal Responsibility: The duo highlights the significance of accepting our current reality, identifying change opportunities, and making conscious choices to shift from victim to observer mindset.

• Managing Stress Responses: They touch upon the 'fight or flight' reaction in stressful scenarios, emphasizing mindfulness and relaxation techniques for better regulation.

• Confronting Imposter Syndrome: Kim offers insights into imposter syndrome, linking it to deep-rooted beliefs and suggesting strategies to separate these from our performance.

• The 'Minimum Effective Dose' Strategy: They discuss how minor, well-targeted changes can lead to significant life improvements, advocating for a minimalistic approach to personal development.

• Awareness and Adjustment: The conversation wraps up with a focus on recognizing when we slip into a victim mindset and the importance of readjusting to an observer perspective.

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