Joanne, an author and former member of a polygamous Mormon community, shares her intriguing journey through life shaped by quirky beliefs and rituals. She discusses the existential dread behind her move to a small Utah town, where she encountered extreme practices like prophetic visions and the law of celestial marriage. Joanne offers humorous insights into dating pressures at Brigham Young University, while also tackling the challenges of leaving a patriarchal faith. Her stories reflect the delightful absurdity and serious implications of life in a cult-like environment.
Joanne's journey illustrates the pressures faced by women in religious communities regarding marriage and traditional roles, impacting their personal identities.
The shift towards polygamy in Joanne's marriage highlights the complexities and emotional challenges that arise when confronting extreme beliefs within a cult-like environment.
Deep dives
Joanne's Journey into Cult Life
Joanne shares her experience growing up in a devout Mormon family and the pressures she felt to marry after graduating. At Brigham Young University, she realized her upbringing led to sexual repression, feeling embarrassed when she graduated without any romantic relationships. After dating briefly, she married Jeff, with the understanding that marriage was essential to access the celestial kingdom, a central belief in her faith. The couple quickly began having children, and Joanne felt compelled to obey the traditional roles expected of her within their religious context.
The Road to Manti and Polygamy
As their marriage progressed, Jeff became increasingly obsessed with teachings suggesting that the Second Coming of Christ was imminent, leading him to a more extreme set of beliefs. They moved to Manti, Utah, seeking a 'safe place' amidst these apocalyptic predictions, where polygamy was encouraged. Although initially resistant, Joanne began to feel the pressure from Jeff as they became part of a community that endorsed polygamous relationships. This shift towards living polygamy pushed Joanne into a complex emotional landscape filled with conflict over her preconceived notions of marriage and family structure.
The Acceptable Face of Polygamy
Eventually, Jeff decided to pursue a teenage girl, Judith, as his second wife, which Joanne initially helped facilitate despite her hidden doubts and fears of jealousy. During Judith's wedding, Joanne participated in a ceremony that was both surreal and emotionally challenging as she grappled with her place in a polygamous relationship. She planned the wedding reception with intricate details while internally battling feelings of loss and betrayal. The episode decodes the absurdities and contradictions surrounding the practice of polygamy within their community, maintaining a humorous tone despite the serious implications of these relationships.
Faced with the fear of an impending apocalypse, Joanne and her husband move to a small Utah town to live "Mormonism on steroids", which means wearing long underwear, communicating with the dead, prophetic visions, odd temple rituals, cookies with Jesus, and the law of celestial marriage (i.e. polygamy).
If you or someone you know has been in a cult and want to share your story, contact us at info@wasiinacult.com We'd love to hear from you.
Link to Joanne's Book, "It's Not About Sex My Ass: Confessions of an Ex-Mormon Ex-Polygamist Ex-Wife": https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-About-Sex-Ex-Polygamist-ebook/dp/B008Q4D6E4
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