The Lila Rose Show E257: "I Was Looking for Dad": His Journey of Same-Sex Attractions and Healing w/Joe Dallas | Lila Rose Show
Oct 14, 2025
In this engaging conversation, Joe Dallas, a Christian counselor and founder of Cloudfire Ministries, shares his transformative journey from struggling with same-sex attraction to healing and helping others. He reflects on his complex childhood, the void left by parental dynamics, and the hollowness of affirmation in the gay community. Joe discusses the importance of male friendships in his recovery and critiques modern affirming cultures for their mental health impact. With deep compassion, he offers guidance for parents and emphasizes the value of truth and grace in ministry.
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Childhood Abuse Shaped Sexual Confusion
- Joe Dallas recounts being molested at eight and how the abuser convinced him to keep it secret.
- That betrayal created a deep lie that he was defective and established sexualized needs tied to adult men.
Double Life Before Repentance
- Joe describes living a double life: dating girls by day and seeking older men by night.
- He later repented, relocated, and developed non-sexual male friendships that helped restore his identity.
Father Bonding Influences Male Identity
- Lack of affirmed masculine bonding with fathers can leave boys craving male approval in unhealthy ways.
- That deficit can predispose some boys to bond sexually with older men as a substitute for paternal acceptance.
